Talking about Marriage

 So it's the second to last week of October and Halloween is so close! I love that holiday so much that i'm trying not to get distracted. It's getting chilly, and with that I am seeing a lot more couple cuddled up. It's weird it feels like as soon as it gets colder people get more in a dating/engagement mode. Which is funny because this week in class we talked about marriage.

I guess I never really thought that there would be too many problems the first month of marriage, but really it's not like that. In class we discussed how the first month is pretty much a huge adjustment. You have to share a bed, bathroom and your body. Grocery shopping becomes an issue if you both eat differently, or the time that you both go to bed. Honestly some of these things were a surprise for me to hear. I guess everyone portrays marriage as being an easy thing. It really isn't, it's a serious commitment and change of life. I really wish that more people here knew this. I think a lot of people rush into marriage without realizing how it works. I'm glad I learned about these things so I don't make that mistake.

The week of October 15th

Okay so now to write about this week. Seriously this week in class has influenced me a lot. We talked about ... Relationships! Honestly I loved learning about this stuff in previous semesters, but now that I'm actually dating someone, it has been kind of scary. There are so many theories about love, relationships and how they work, it's sometimes overwhelming.  The book talked about different things that initially attract us to someone. Like physical attraction and similarities. And the funny thing is that I didn't get drawn in by some of those things when I got into a relationship. In fact me and my boyfriend were polar opposites. So I was worried that since there were not these things it meant that I wasn't as attached to him. Also in class we learned about Oxytocin, which was the hormone chemical that makes you feel attached to someone. Apparently only women have this hormone. So I was worried that I was not releasing this chemical with him and that's why I felt like I didn't know him. Now I know that I shouldn't have worried so much. But pretty much this lesson made me feel very pensive about whether my relationship was built on  a right foundation or not. Then the next class we talked about the Relationship Attachment Model which pretty much said that when you break the touch barrier  you get attachment even though you don't know the person.

So that's how I got my answer of why I was nervous about my relationship and felt like I didn't know him. We had broken the touch barrier on the first date and it just made the whole thing complicated.I'm sharing this with you because I don't want anyone else make that mistake. My suggestion would be to get to know the person you are dating before you decide to snuggle with them, hold hands, or kiss them.

Sociological theory of same gender attraction

Last week I forgot to post something. But I feel like it was a really good week and I have to comment before summarizing this  current week. Last week we discussed same gender attractions. This subject has always been a touchy subject for me. I've always been very loving towards people who struggle with that. I feel that there are many people from my faith that are not as understanding and it bugs me. So I was scared that the lessons in my class were going to be harsh. But the opposite happened. In actuality Brother Williams approached it sociologically. It all surprisingly made sense. He talked about how sometimes if a child is different we end up over analyzing the situation and socializing them to be more different. For example if a little boy like to play with dolls, his parents might freak out and make him play only sports and later they might treat him like he was gay. A forceful experience like this would make him change. Instead we should treat our child like nothing is wrong. If your son wants to play with dolls then make him play the boy and you play the girl doll. I just really enjoyed this discussion and I thought it was a really interesting theory to study. Of course I do believe there are exceptions to this theory but I do believe it can explain a lot.